In love there is always some form of sacrifice. Love transcends all kinds of barriers, and so does the need to love. It is easy to fall into a comfortable groove of loving others while feeling unworthy of love yourself. Love does not require or deserve any perfection, as long as you are willing to fall in love with yourself first. Once you are in love with yourself then you are free to love others and to share all that you have.
Love also includes a range of positive emotional and psychological states, from the strongest imaginable personal trait or good decision, the deepest human longing, to the easiest basic pleasure. In fact, love is the feeling that we get when we connect with another human being and begin to express our feelings of caring and compassion toward another human being. Love is an expression of bonding and belongingness and sharing with another person. Love is something that connect us to our own core values, and what we value and how we feel about those things. Love is the ability to let go of the need for approval, and instead place complete trust and faith in another person’s ability to understand and meet our needs.
The only difference between lust and love is the desire. In love there is no desire, because it is a pure and unconditional bond of affection. In lust, it is important to satisfy that need based on attraction, without regard for whether the other person feels fulfilled. This kind of superficial connection can be unhealthy because it can easily lead to attachment and to the deep, all-encompassing familiarity known as lust.
There are brain regions that specialize in storing and recalling information related to love. These brain regions are activated during times of romantic relationships, or when thinking about feelings of love. This is how our brains work. During the periods of our life when we are most attentive to other people’s needs, these areas of the brain increase their activity level. This is what is known as memory. While memory has its purposes in terms of making sure that our memories are accurate, it is also an indicator of how much emotional impact these memories may have.
If we continue to use our memory, we will eventually be unable to distinguish one feeling of deep affection for another person and another feeling of passion for another person. We will get so caught up in how good we feel, or how badly someone is hurt that we will forget how different our emotions are. What makes things more complicated is that there will be times when we feel very badly about the things that another person does, but we cannot help interpreting it as a reflection of how badly they have treated us. This may make us feel bad, but the feelings will not subside until we can overcome our distaste for the actions of another.
In order to avoid having feelings deep affection for someone, you need to learn to be honest with yourself. Think about how you really feel about this person in private. If you find yourself acting very negatively, then try to find something positive about the behavior. Only once you are able to detach yourself from your feelings of distaste for someone, can you make love for a different person with real conviction.